Using “Pull” to Make Stuff Happen

Using “Pull” to Make Stuff Happen

You know those times when you know quite clearly what you WANT to be able to do, and GET EXCITED ABOUT it and can hardly wait to get working on it?  I call that something that has “pull”.   It pulls you forward, and it feels easy to make room for it in your life 🙂

And, in contrast, you know that feeling when faced with something that you figure you  “SHOULD” do (because “it’s good for me” or all sorts of other reasons) – but it doesn’t really excite you?  And how hard is it to get your butt in gear to go do that thing???  (Think, perhaps, of a few New Years Resolutions one might have made over the years that were of this nature – I know I’ve had a few!!!)  I call that that a “push” thing.   You (or someone or something else) have to push yourself to go do it.   Grunt….

And if you have done some of that stuff that has “Push”, how’s that working for you???

I’ve started a lot of things with “push”, over the years.  But not too many of them have stuck.

“Push” generally requires will/ “will power”, and some degree of stern-ness to get it happening.  It feels like WORK. And (surprise!) it sure seems to me that often something I did primarily through “push” seems to fall by the wayside when some convenient wee distraction shows up…  “Squirrel!!”  🙂

“Pull”, on the other hand, feels different.  Somehow I find reasons to learn/do more of it, even when other stuff shows up to distract me.  It has the attraction of a magnet.  It Pulls me along… 🙂  And when I hit roadblocks, instead of hastily dropping it and running away, I become intrigued and curious and motivated to figure out how to get through those.

Use “PULL” to create fertile ground for success!

So, here’s my big question for you:  what do YOU want to be able to do?  Something worthy of truly wanting it?  Something you can FEEL, and makes you HAPPY or PUMPED when you think about it and imagine doing it?

When something you want has enough of THIS kind of Pull, for you, that creates fertile ground for success- for you.

(But beware… if what you come up with is lame or luke-warm and does not actually fire you up, your response and action is likely to similarly be lame or lukewarm, no matter how much you set your “will” to do it… And you know what generally happens to those kinds of starts!)

As an example:  Maybe you have always dreamed of hiking the Chilkoot Trail with your kids.  This is something that you would LOVE to do, and get excited thinking about how great it would be to do something like that – before the kids have all flown off from the nest.  THIS has enough Pull to make “getting in shape” worth doing – so that know you can do that hike in style (and not have to be carried over the Chilkoot Pass by your kids! How embarrassing…!!!)

Would you agree that that’s a much more potent and motivating reason to get in shape than “because, well, it’s supposed to be good for me” …???

This is the BIG reason why one of my first questions, with every person I work with, is “What would you like to be able to DO, with more freedom and ease and comfort?”  It taps into something that fires you up and enlivens you.  Yay!

Today’s video is a wee case study of something that I have been starting to learn these past few weeks:  learning how to SUP (stand up paddleboard) – on the river.  🙂

This has good clear Pull, for me.  It’s something I WANT to learn.

However, as you will see in the video, this new skill isn’t something that just magically happens.   I need to keep at it. In lots of different ways – some that work better than others! My body needs time and experiences through which to figure things out.

But THIS thing (river SUP) feels totally worth it to me.  And so, I do keep at it.  🙂

The Goldilocks Principle applies…

The “Goldilocks” principle definitely applies here – not too much, not too little…. Just Right!

~ If I take on too much too soon and scare the crap out of myself or hurt myself, my body will NOT learn much other than “see, that was a stupid idea!!” – and I am unlikely to get better 🙂

~ And if I never bother to go on the river, I won’t learn much either.

~ However, if I do this in small bits that feel exciting and engaging but NOT threatening, then my body (which is a smart body – like yours is too!) does learn and adapt.  And it stays fun. And fun is good!

Feldenkrais® and Tellington TTouch® both work very much, and work best, when you invite and cultivate what it is that “pulls” you.  What it is you WANT for yourself.  What FEELS engaging and fun and useful and worth doing – for you.

So… what Pulls You??

So, what do YOU want for yourself?  What has a strong pull for you?  What are you ready to explore and open up for your own self – so that you can do it  – and feel good as you do it??


Happy exploring 🙂

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About the Author:

Violet van Hees is a movement freedom specialist who works with people (and with horses) to release tightness and pain, and to transform body "stuckness" into something that you can work with. We then use what emerges to create new freedom and ease in your movement and in what you do, in ways that feel safe and reasonable - and that work - for you. Violet is a Feldenkrais® Practitioner, a Tellington TTouch® Equine Practitioner, and a BCRPA Trainer of Fitness Leaders. She works with a deep interest in and understanding of biomechanics, neuroplasticity, body response to trauma, energy work, and how we learn.