Are you Stuck? You are not “Defective” :-)

Are you Stuck? You are not “Defective” :-)

Do you have some kind of stubborn, recurring or continuous tightness, or pain, or injury – that just comes back and/or sticks around no matter WHAT you do that is supposed to help it go away?

If your answer is “yes”, and it is not something that is clearly a medical issue (like a broken bone or torn ligament, etc.) it may be that you are feeling like there is something wrong with you… that you are defective in some way, otherwise this thing should have shifted and moved on and gotten better by now.

However, in this video I talk about how there is a VERY different way to understand this kind of stubborn persistence in your body.

A pattern or movement that your body takes on that is very persistent, is probably something that was really important and useful to you – at the time it originally started.    So, it was a SMART thing to do – at the time.

It might have been really smart and useful because:
– it kept you safe physically,  e.g. bracing, in order to immobilize an area to let injured tissue heal after an injury.
– it kept you safe socially, e.g. taking on the posture of the people you hang out with and rely on, like your family or social peers; or, making yourself small in order to be un-noticed or invisible so that you would not get into trouble or be hurt; or
– it was good enough to keep you going, and you had to keep going – so “good enough” was… good enough!

The thing is, we are adaptable, and we change and adapt as we experience new things.  (This is what neuroplasticity is.)

But… if the reason you are doing something – even if it seems to be working against you now – was a really important reason related to your sense of survival and safety, then your body is going to need some really good convincing that whatever NEW thing you want to do instead takes care of you at least as well, if not better.

And, your body is convinced most convincingly through its own experience – through sensing – not through nice concepts or ideas.

If you can get a sense of what that original important reason was, then you can work with that.  Two (of many) possibilities are:

– you can explore whether you still NEED to do whatever this thing was originally set up to do.  If yes, you can check whether there are other ways to do it now that work at least as well (or even better!), so that you have some variety and choice rather than just “doing what I have always done the way I have always done it”.

– if you find that may you don’t need it anymore (e.g. the injured tissue has healed so you don’t need to brace any more; or, you are no longer in an unsafe social situation where you need to be constantly vigilant), then you can explore what you can do instead now – using your whole self in a different way.

All this to say, you are not “defective”!   In fact, this “thing” that is going on is likely here as a result of your body working in the best way you could figure out at the time, to keep you safe and keep you going.

And if you tune in to what your body has to say about why this is going on, you might find a very helpful key to help unlock the stuck pattern, start shifting to something else, and find new choices that work better for you and suit you now.

Check out this week’s video, to learn more about this:

Want help with exploring how to get unstuck?  This is what I do.  I’d love to help you explore how to get this kind of stuff to open up for yourself, so that you have more freedom and ease and comfort and strength for the things you want to do. 🙂

To get in touch, send me a note in the contact box below, or phone me at 867-633-3154.


Happy exploring 🙂

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About the Author:

Violet van Hees is a movement freedom specialist who works with people (and with horses) to release tightness and pain, and to transform body "stuckness" into something that you can work with. We then use what emerges to create new freedom and ease in your movement and in what you do, in ways that feel safe and reasonable - and that work - for you. Violet is a Feldenkrais® Practitioner, a Tellington TTouch® Equine Practitioner, and a BCRPA Trainer of Fitness Leaders. She works with a deep interest in and understanding of biomechanics, neuroplasticity, body response to trauma, energy work, and how we learn.